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 “Each person is a unique individual. Hence, psychotherapy should be formulated to meet the uniqueness of the individual’s needs, rather than tailoring the person to fit the Procrustean bed of a hypothetical theory of human behavior.”  

Milton H. Erickson, M.D.




I work from various proven psychological theories...

...for over 30 years, (over 25,000 therapy hours...yikes...) including but not limited to those historically known as Psychoanalytical and Objects Relations, to Gestalt, Transactional Analysis, Behavioral, Strategic and Cognitive Theory...plus the most modern concepts from EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) Sensorimotor, Somatic Experiencing, and Mindfulness-based concepts.

My understanding of how the brain, mind and body interacts comes from various insights taken from theorists such as: Sigmund Freud, Carl Jung, Carl Rogers, Erik Erikson, Alfred Adler to modern-day scholars including but not limited to Eric Berne, James Masterson, M.D, John N. Briere, Alice Miller, Aphrodite Matsakis, Francine Shapiro, Peter Levine, and Fritz Perls. I consolidate all of these methods and practices in an effort to make the best of what has been proven and accepted by the psychological community.
   
In my private practice in Los Angeles, (AS WELL AS ON Facetime or THE PHONE)...
I specialize in the treatment of emotional issues in high-functioning adults and couples...many of whom have experienced childhood abuse, neglect and/or molestation.

I am a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, with a Master of Arts Degree in Psychology from Pepperdine University in California and a Bachelor of Science Degree in Communications from the University of Illinois.

I am a member of the American Association for Counseling and Development, the Group Psychotherapy Association and the National Honor Society for Psychology, as well as the California and Los Angeles Associations for Marriage & Family Therapists. I have served on the LA Board of Directors of the National Organization for Changing Men.

In addition, I have consulted with a variety of businesses, athletic teams, city governments and organizations researching consumer trends and facilitating team-building, marketing, and strategic planning.



Some of my somewhat controversial but strong and unique stands:


On Therapy:

Not every therapist or all therapy is created equal.  And not every therapist is right for every person.  

If you are a liar, a screamer, a blamer… or if you have been diagnosed with a personality disorder… if you are bipolar and don’t want to take your meds…then I am not your guy.  I am just not available every week for the level of support you would need.

My clients seek an intelligent and creative approach.  And a laugh or two is not verboten in therapy with me.  My approach is to help you to find your own way.  I am not offering a “cure” for the mentally ill.

But I do offer therapy tools with compassion, mindfulness and empathy…to help you learn how to manage and improve your emotional life.  Therapy should offer you a process or a practiced way of life.


On Relationships:

If you can’t have a good relationship, why have one?  You need to look at your own part in the conflict.  If one person changes, the whole system changes.  If you both change, things progress quicker.  But I’m not here to keep people together at any cost.  Once you understand what you have been doing unconsciously, you can change your behavior and thereby change the relationship.  Or find the courage to end it.


On Stress:

If you don’t make time to relax, unwind, and reconnect to yourself and someone else, you will never reduce your stress.  You have to manage it, not get rid of it.  You have to prioritize.  It might cost you.


On Sex:

Everyone can have a great sex life.  But you have to plan it.  There’s no such thing as a constant, spontaneous, lustful sex life when there is a long-term attached relationship along with work, kids, commitments, and busy lives.  Your must manage your sex life.



On Happiness:

Not everything can be fixed.  If you develop an ongoing “Self-Mentoring Practice,” you can manage emotional/mental problems.  But it is not the therapy that helps; it is your commitment to yourself.  It is your regular practice.  Happiness is a way of living, not a final destination.  

The idea of a “cure” is a set-up for disappointment.  The delusion of some therapists is that they will heal you.  You can only heal yourself.

















"We have created the situation in which we find ourselves, and it is up to us to create the circumstances for our release."

                                                                                        Lama Yeshe