NOT The End
Self-Help BOOK
Fiction BOOKS
Self Care Part 1
Self Care Part 2
Self Care Part 3
My Philosophy
Creative People
OK to Be Happy

 “Each person is a unique individual. Hence, psychotherapy should be formulated to meet the uniqueness of the individual’s needs, rather than tailoring the person to fit the Procrustean bed of a hypothetical theory of human behavior.”  

Milton H. Erickson, M.D.

I have worked from various proven psychological theories...for over 30 years (more than 25,000 therapy hours...yikes...) including but not limited to those historically known as Psychoanalytical and Objects Relations, to Gestalt, Transactional Analysis, Behavioral, Strategic and Cognitive the most modern concepts from EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) Sensoriotor, Somatic Experiencing, and Mindfulness-based concepts.

My understanding of how the brain, mind and body interacts comes from various insights taken from theorists such as: Sigmund Freud, Carl Jung, Carl Rogers, Erik Erikson, Alfred Adler to modern-day scholars including but not limited to Eric Berne, James Masterson, M.D, John N. Briere, Alice Miller, Aphrodite Matsakis, Francine Shapiro, Peter Levine, and Fritz Perls. I consolidate all of these methods and practices in an effort to make the best of what has been proven and accepted by the psychological community.
I have specialized in the treatment of emotional issues in high-functioning adults and couples...many of whom have experienced childhood abuse, neglect and/or molestation.

I have been a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, with a Master of Arts Degree in Psychology and a Bachelor of Science Degree in Communications..

I have been a member of the American Association for Counseling and Development, the Group Psychotherapy Association and the National Honor Society for Psychology, as well as the California and Los Angeles Associations for Marriage & Family Therapists. I have served on the LA Board of Directors of the National Organization for Changing Men.

In addition, I have consulted with a variety of businesses, athletic teams, city governments and organizations researching consumer trends and facilitating team-building, marketing, and strategic planning.

I worked in top management and creative departments of the Advertising Agency business for over 25 years, and "over-lapped" careers during the tail end of my corporate life, while becoming a therapist.

Some of my somewhat controversial but strong and unique stands:

On Relationships:

If you can’t have a good relationship, why have one?  You need to look at your own part in the conflict.  If one person changes, the whole system changes.  If you both change, things progress quicker.  But I’m not here to keep people together at any cost.  Once you understand what you have been doing unconsciously, you can change your behavior and thereby change the relationship.  Or find the courage to end it.

On Stress:

If you don’t make time to relax, unwind, and reconnect to yourself and someone else, you will never reduce your stress.  You have to manage it, not get rid of it.  You have to prioritize.  It might cost you.

On Sex:

Everyone can have a great sex life.  But you have to plan it.  There’s no such thing as a constant, spontaneous, lustful sex life when there is a long-term attached relationship along with work, kids, commitments, and busy lives.  Your must manage your sex life.

On Happiness:

Not everything can be fixed.  If you develop an ongoing “Self-Mentoring Practice,” you can manage emotional/mental problems.  But it is not the therapy that helps; it is your commitment to yourself.  It is your regular practice.  Happiness is a way of living, not a final destination.  

The idea of a “cure” is a set-up for disappointment.  The delusion of some therapists is that they will heal you.  You can only heal yourself.

"We have created the situation in which we find ourselves, and it is up to us to create the circumstances for our release."

                                                                                        Lama Yeshe